BEING A SINGLE PARENT

When a parent manages the affairs of a family without a partner, he or she is a single parent. A person may become a single parent in several different ways, including the extended absence of a spouse, divorce, by choice, or by the death of a spouse.

Single parenthood is commonly accepted, but it’s important to explain to your children why the other parent is absent. You also should learn all you can about parenting, no matter how you became a single parent. This is especially important for single parents because they have no one to take up the slack or to fill in the gaps in parenting.

Single parenting comes with pressure. It can be difficult raising a family alone. Responsibilities and demands on your time and energy are doubled. Your earning power is cut in half. Being a single parent may mean a limited budget. To cope, develop a budget that fits your income and expenses. To avoid spending excess money, choose inexpensive ways to relax and enjoy your family. You can always go for a walk in the park or play catch or sing together. Single parents often are concerned about living on a smaller income and dealing with lifestyle changes. It’s difficult when you don’t have a partner to share parenting, income, feelings and your lifestyle. As a single parent, you may experience feelings of loneliness, guilt, anxiety, or grief – all are normal feelings.

If you work, you may need to make arrangements for the care of your children. Babysitters, day-care centers, childminders, neighbours, family and friends are resources which can be of help. With all of the pressures you feel, remember that your children are an important part of your life. It is necessary to maintain a close, healthy relationship with them.